When I was young, I thought I was a princess living a fairytale and I deemed life as just full of rainbows and butterflies. But then life happened, I figured that fairytales are merely a chapter of one heckuvan adventure.
I am a very optimistic person, at one point it's a bit too much for when it comes to relationships, I always think that everything will work out just fine. But obviously, that isn't the case. Sometimes relationships fall apart in just a blink of an eye.

It's like you've been taken at a very high point then all of a sudden you've been dropped just to hit rock bottom..with no warning to bring your own parachute.
Being very idealistic, we tend to believe that post-relationships there is this thing we like to call "closure". But not all are given that especially if the relationship ended badly.
Personally, I don't think closure is something that comes externally. Although, yes, there are used-to-be-couples that talk about what happened between them maturely and with mutual respect (I salute those people for that!). But I think real closure comes from within. It's from coming to terms that some things end the way we never imagined them to (for sometimes we never really imagined them to end at all).
It's from accepting that some good things come to an end, some things we outgrow, and some people do not belong to our life story anymore.
It's from knowing that we are responsible for our own thoughts and actions, it's from forgiving ourselves for things we did and didn't do, but most of all it's forgiving people (even if they're not sorry) not because they are right, but because you know you deserve peace of mind.
Some fairytales abruptly stop at an unfinished chapter for what we need to do is to write that chapter on our own.
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